May 13, 2011
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If she was a "Hottie" and not a "Fatty" in a Bikini...
Someone would have run to her rescue.Lovelish just posted this and a lot of people there
and on Youtube (comments there are cruel) think it is funny,
I think it is sad that she was struggling and no one helped her.
Someone took time to tape it but not to help.
She may have been drunk and she could have more fashion sense
but even so, I think it is always best to at least offer help
when someone looks like they are in distress.
I bet even if she was visibly drunk but very attractive
someone would have helped her in a New York Minute ( See, I love my idioms!)Would you laugh, help or ignore her?
Comments (105)
If you're drunk and stupid enough to go play in an ocean you deserve to drown.
I would've worried she'd drown out there.
I'd help her out, of course, that is if I could swim.
@ShimmerBodyCream - I understand that that would be asking for trouble.
Did they do a blood alcohol level ? How do they know she wasn't diabetic or having a seizure? I have seen low blood sugar make people seem drunk. I don't know why that bothered me so much ,I guess because I am fat and have rolled around trying to get out of the water ,but honest to God, I never wore a bikini!
I understand some find it somewhat funny but I'd like to think most people would definitely go help her. I know I would. But yeah, judging by the camera man he thought it was better to film her trying her best not to drown. Honestly, drinking and swimming in the ocean or on the beach with strong waves like that are a bad combination.
You are so right, if she was skinny men would have been running over each other to help her out. Shame on people. (Can't assume who is taping her though, could have been her mom.)
Also, women often don't help each other out either. When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I fainted a lot. I once fainted in Staples and woke up to a woman stepping over me. No kidding, I saw the bottom of her high heeled shoes. I was checking out at a counter (rather than the cashier) and she had to see me fall down through the glass case but she didn't ask if I was okay either. As I was walking out a male worker asked me if I was okay.
Is it actually verified that she was drunk? Not that it should make a difference, but my mom looked like that this past week trying to stand up in the waves. It didn't last as long, and I was standing right there laughing at her, because I could tell she was fine, and eventually helped her, but it was pretty funny (my mom, that is) To be honest though, she might be rolling around and having waves crash on her, but she seems fine, she even stood up at one point, though I may have thought different if I were there. I'm not sure I'd be able to help her at all, looks like she would have just pulled me down with her - but I would have tried to find someone who could help.
I most certainly would have helped. Size and fashion sense have nothing to do with humanity.
Not funny...If she was enjoying getting pounded by waves it would be different but she seems to be in distress...Sorry, drunk or sober we just don't let someone struggle that way without seeking help.
I think I would have tried to help. But I would have asked first if she wanted it, because sometimes people do stuff like that on purpose. And if she were drunk it would seem to be more of a reason to help her because she is definitely not thinking clearly and a danger to herself.
i wood try and help
Why do people assume she's drunk? I have been that heavy in the past and knocked down time and again by waves. Maybe she was worn out and couldn't stand up. Whether she was or wasn't drunk doesn't matter. She was obviously struggling and no one went to help her. It makes me rather angry.
I'm with you on this. So much.
This is sad... I would have gone to help the poor gal.
That's not funny at all.
@WakeUpLaughing - I totally agree.
I would have helped. This is sad.
As kids, we used to play in the sea like that. At first I thought she was laughing herself, but at the end she seemed to appreciate the kids' help. She may not have known how to deal with the waves, in which case, help would have been good -- or she may have simply been playing with the cameraperson. I think I would have watched pretty closely to see if she was in trouble, then gone for help if it was needed.
@seedsower - LET THEM DROWN FIRST, ASK QUESTIONS LATER.
@ShimmerBodyCream - Ur bad!
honestly I'd laugh my ass off while trying to help her. and a bikini? really? lol at least she had some confidence lol. that probably went down the drain at the same time this made it to youtube lOL
This video made me cringe. I wanted badly to help her up, to salvage what dignity remained. So sad that no one but the children would help her.
Okay... After looking at the video, and obviously not there and not knowing the real story, it was kinda humerous to see her rolling/playing around in the waves. (If in fact, that was the case.) If I were there in person, and it appeared she needed help, then yes... I would attempt to help her if she really needed it. I'm not over weight as she is, and even I have gotten knocked down by waves before and looked just like she did. But to be on the safe side.... I no longer go into the ocean anymore.
Leave it to the kids to show up the adults in the area with their compassion.
There are any number of reasons that she could have been struggling, but she was definitely struggling. I would have offered her help. It's infuriating that someone filmed that for three minutes instead of asking her if she was okay.
Our society is drifting that way. People are quick to whip out their cell phone and record things to post online, but slow to use that same phone to call for help.
I have to admit initially I would have found it funny but would have taken pity on her! She could have gotten seriously injured! Poor thing 8(
How sad.
How disgusting that the camera person would film this entire thing and not offer help. It's a good thing she was close to the beach and not too far into the water. i would have rushe to help her in a heart beat, despite my bum knee.
this kind of stuff makes me so mad.. that someone would stand there taping it, but never lift a finger to help. wow. she could have drowned for crying out loud!! has society really sunk so low. i wonder how those laughing at her would like some of their most embarrassing moments plastered all over youtube!
I found this sad drunk or not she needed help not only to stand but to cover up goodness and you are right if she had been a pretty younf skinny thing half the beach would have ran to help...This really made me angry and then to finally have little kids try to help..WOW
You are right, if she were cute people would have helped.
I would have went over there and got her out of the water. I think my wife would have helped me out as well.
i couldn't even watch the whole video ... she was having trouble ... someone should have offered a hand ...
I couldn't even watch this to the end. For shame on those people for watching this woman struggle instead of helping her. Glad to read that some children eventually did help.
Sometimes when people are put in a situation where there are others in the area, the individual often surrenders helping to others.
@ShimmerBodyCream - Agreed!
This is appalling.
I'm still waiting for someone to dig up the "well, she's fat, and she might drown us both" excuse.
Fact...even a lean trim person can do that if they panic.
A while back, my daughter (then five) and I were caught in a rip tide. I got her safely to her father, but I was trapped in the water,and it took 15 minutes of swimming parallel to the shore before I could finally get back. I probably looked absurd when I hit the wave line, exhausted and scared.
You never know what you are seeing.
I probably would have done both.
Having been the fatty at the beach myself before I lost weight, I would have asked her if she needed help At least it seemed like those kids tried to help her at the end. She may not have been drunk, just tired out from the waves and what would people have thought of themselves if she did drown?
It reminded me of a case here in Australia a couple of years ago where people saw a black woman lying on a bus stop 'asleep' and walked by without offering help, assuming she was drunk or something. Turned out she was diabetic and had suffered a low sugar seizure. Fortunately someone eventually called an ambulance, but it just drives home the dangers of making assumptions.
@galadrial - Most people in that case would have drowned,I do not think I could swim that long ,so glad you made it back to safety.
Given the limited out of context info the video provides, I would try to help her. I don't have a lot of pity for people who are so drunk they can't function, but I would help if I thought they were in real danger. Her weight isn't an issue for me one way or the other. Obesity is the way of life in the south these days and I live in the number two state for both obesity and being overweight in general. I'm used to seeing fatties.
@LoBornlytesThoughtPalace - A true hero,your daddy and, yes I believe he would have helped her.
I was on the beach one time and a really fat grrrlll sprained her ankle so bad that she couldn't walk. The only way off the beach was to climb a huge flight of stairs.
All of her "friends" just left her standing at the bottom of the stairs. To get her up those stairs was going to literally demand some heavy lifting.
But a handsome beach stud (my daddy) came to her rescue. He demanded that someone get over there and help him.
So another strong guy stepped up and together, he and my daddy made an arm cradle for her to sit in. And they tried not to grunt and groan too loudly as they hefted her up that long flight of stairs.
I'm sure if my daddy were at the beach, he would have helped the fat lady in the video.
I can't swim worth a damn, but I would have at least tried to help her up or something. And I COMPLETELY agree that if she was hot, at least 25 dudes would be scrambling over one another trying to come to her rescue. Our society is petty and shallow and if you're fat, nobody really gives 2 shits about you. I used to be obese and lost a whole bunch of weight, and I was totally astounded by the drastic difference in the way people treated me. It's a completely different world when you're cute, and it shouldn't be that way.
Also, Lovelyish commenters are a bunch of bitches. It's sad how women are quick to cut each other down and point out who's fat and who wore an unflattering dress and blah blah blah...you rarely see a post on there that isn't snarky and bitchy. It would be nice if people could just...well...be nice!
She might sue you for harrassment if you try to help her. She'll think you are trying to get fresh with her, if you're a guy, of course.
I would have offered her a hand and a beach towel, if she wanted it. She may not have been drunk, vertigo can cause these same symptoms in the surf.
I watched it without sound and it wasn't clear to me that she wasn't enjoying it at some level. I don't think I would have helped her. I would have been afraid if I approached her she might bite my head off because she was "swimming." At least once she stood up and got out and then went back in. She sat up and flipped her hair back several times. She was talking. She laughed at one point. Even drunk or diabetic when the kids were helping her she could have made it out but she let herself flop back down. Re: the bikini I have no opinion.
You all need help.
So sad....I hope I would come to her aid immediately.
@ordinarybutloud - It is true, there is no way to know what was happening in the video, but she did reach out to the kids for help.
When I look closely at her face does she looks like she could has Down's syndrome.
I would help her. I won't just stand there and watch her drown herself.
I couldn't watch all of this. If this had been a dog that was treated this poorly, someone would have been arrested. And it looked like that little kid, who himself wasn't skinny, was calling her names. How cruel!!!
i cant say would i would have done. every time i go on a trip i see multiply idiots playing in the waves like this. I wasnt actually sure if she needed the help until the end when the kids came.
ANd if your dumb enough to consume THAT much alcohol and jump in a rough ocean, then dont do it alone! clearly shes had more then one or 2 glasses...
Dont be a stupid person and you wouldn't need the help.
I have been confronted with situations in the past where compassion has overcome my usual shyness, so I'm pretty sure I would help. And I'd also advise her to sue the idiot who filmed her and posted it on YouTube.
@seedsower - okay, then I change my answer. IF she was a diabetic with Down's Syndrome and IF she could not, in fact, get out of the ocean, and IF she was panicking and struggling and miserable and I could tell all that from watching her on the beach, THEN I would definitely try to help her regardless of her bikini or her weight.
When did being fat become the worst thing a person could do? There is a giant portion of the population who believe that being thin and beautiful and being obsequious to other thin beautiful people are the only virtues worth having.
I think I would help her, and then call the beach patrol and have her removed from the beach as a danger to herself. No one that drunk belongs around the water, weather it be at the beach, by a pool, or in a boat! Scary! I'm glad those children have the sense to keep an eye on her, the adults don't seem to care beyond making a stoopid movie.
I think its pretty touching--and telling--that in the end, its a group of kids who go to help her up, and keep helping her up until she's okay.
a weird al yankovich song comes to mind " I can't watch that!" because? I think you are right- People love it when you lose! give 'em dirty laundry." ("dirty laundry" Don Henley) if she were thinspo - they'd have taped and helped-taped first.
I would offer help. And I can't see myself not trying to help if she said yes.
@ShimmerBodyCream - Lol!
I didn't laugh at this video until the kids helped her out and she fell back in.
But yeah, I would've been concerned and offered help. I would want someone to help me.
@Prolixity_Split - This.
That's horrible! I couldn't watch it all, it bothered me too much. What's wrong with people?
I would try to help her but I can't swim!!
People are cruel though, especially the person just filming and doing nothing.
@needmoreink - " I used to be obese and lost a whole bunch of weight, and I was totally astounded
by the drastic difference in the way people treated me. It's
a completely different world when you're cute, and it shouldn't be that
way."
Yup, it is so cruel how society treats overweight people. I was super skinny and then gained a lot of weight. It's amazingly sad and disgusting how different people treat you. If you are skinny, you need help. If you are fat, well if you weren't so fat you could help yourself. I've lost about 35lbs and strangers are starting (men and women) to be nice again. It's shameful. (And you can tell the really nice people out there who don't seem to care. Like the guy who ran to open a door for me despite I was a chubster.)
Well, according to the people that filmed it, she was drunk. Maybe they saw her drinking prior to this. I do feel bad for her, this is really embarrassing, but hopefully she learns her lesson about drinking too much.
Most definitely help! I used to work in an emergency service and there is absolutely no way that I could have watched that go on for as long as it did and not step in to help. It actually made me cringe watching her.
drunk or sober, skinny or fat, I'd help her.
Chances are, she wasn't at the beach by herself. Obviously, if no one that she came with wanted to help her, she's got to pick some better people to go to the beach with.
laugh.
I, too, felt infuriated while watching this video. Wasn't there anybody to go, approach her and ask if she was ok? Why? If a helpless person wasn't bad enough in so many levels, there was someone producing a camera (or cellphone) and records this on an attempt to make this somehting funny when it's not. Shame on those who found this funny, those who never approached her to see if she was ok or something, instead of those kids, and finally, shame on the person who recorded this without taking any action.
Hate to break it to you, but there are lots of videos like this. This video isn't anything new.
I would have tried to help her if she would allow it...she could have drowned. I think it is terrible to not think of someone's dignity even when/if they have chosen some idiotic things. I wonder what things are coming to. I was glad to see the young people help her! My goodness-- There is absolutely no reason to watch someone humiliate themselves and think it is funny. It is sad.
I'd observe to ensure that she was indeed having trouble and ask if I could help her. Leaving anyone floundering is an adolescent thing to do. If she refused help, I'd hang around at a discreet distance until I was sure that sufficient assistance was observant and close by if required.
Probably both! Poor thing.
being drunk or acting like it isn't a crime against humanity. it doesn't take long to figure out this lady is in trouble. any adult could have helped....but the children took the day. and for all those idiots that think being drunk is reason enough to let her perish, there's a babe ruth floating around those waves for the taking!!!
I would have helped but I gotta be honest, I'd laugh my ass off while doing it.
Sad
Drunk or not, she should have gotten more help from the observers. God bless those little kids.
i just dont understand the cruelty in this world beth. she could of had heat stroke, been mentaly handicapped, having any of a number of health problems yet it seems as if the beach was full of people yet they were content to watch her drown for their own ammusement im so tired of people thinking that someones size, popularity, their wealth, political views, social elequence should have any bearing on how we are treated. i dont know what to do anymore. it seems as though i live in a world that i cant fit in. when i see something like this, i wonder how long we can survive as a society. how long before god decides he has seen enough. had it not been for those children, she probably would have been left to drown. its just so sad to see all the suffering in this world with so few willing to offer a helping hand. sorry for the punctuation errors. my phone has decided it too has no use to work right. such is life. i hope you and your family are doing well. maybe some day we can talk again. i would like that very much. best regards, mark
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