i say whatever comes to mind, first.  if i had a real problem with someone, i'd talk to them privately, rather than write something for the whole world to read.  eh. 

unless i was REALLY mad and wanted to vent, but that's never happened.

@vanedave - Blah, anybody fucks with you - they'll have to fuck with me too. I get really pissed when people screw around with my family, friends in RL or even here. Just my nature. Too many nice people get bashed and I am one that can't stand BS like that.
That's why I'd back a decent guy like you, anytime, anywhere.

I haven't been involved in any xanga drama-I have few subscribers/friends and they all seem to "put up with me".  My family-well everyone takes everything personally and it does get nasty!

I couldn't imagine anyone being mean or rude to you Beth. If someone ever does, send them over to me. I get furious when I see trolls, idiots or vermin causing harm to people that post and mean well. Yes, I do have a bit of a temper but, I'm not ashamed of it. Scumbags that go out of their way to hurt others need to be put in their place and I'm not ever going to let the bastards get away with it.

 Ooops,  I think you struck a nerve! 

Good topic. I feel pretty strongly about this.

I avoid drama. I do my best not to make nasty or hateful comments on someone else's site. I certainly avoid stirring drama on my own blog. My blog is an online journal and I am honest, but I never say things with the intent to inflame. So far most of those who visit have understood that.

More often than not I don't feed trolls or fan the flames, but sometimes someone will press all the wrong buttons and I will occasionally give someone a good telling off if they've really worked to earn it. Then I leave it alone.

I don't hold with incitement or rudeness on my own site. Instead of pacifying people who just want to start argument or who can't control their desire to start unpleasant confrontations, I simply 1) ignore or 2) block. I have neither the time nor the inclination to enter into nasty confrontations with online losers, and my tolerance for people starting shit in my comments section has greatly eroded over time. If it is a longtime reader or friend who isn't cool with something I say, I give them the benefit of the doubt. If it's a first time reader who approaches me with some respect, I also do so.

Then there are those just come along spoiling for a fight, just aching to spew some nastiness for whatever reason. I block those idiots without a second thought. I have the right to establish my own atmosphere and have the discussions I choose on my own blog.

When it gets nasty between two people I like or care about, I stay out of it. I might talk to them about something else. I make the effort to avoid injecting myself into ugly confrontations. People resent that, and one just makes an ass of oneself doing that anyway.

I hear about all about the drama that goes on here, but I usually only hear about it second hand, like with this post. Once in a while I do see a post where someone is ranting, but I just ignore it. Attacking someone publicly, name calling, insulting and being belligerent isn't going to change anything if you don't like someone. And returning insults if someone attacks you doesn't solve anything, it just escalates the problem. Unfortunately, I really think creating controversy is a form of entertainment for some people. I don't want it in my life, so I stay away from it. 

I get into it with people I think are being unjust to someone who's just plain nice.  You, Zsa MD, Its What Eye Know, My Name is Blue Eyes, Words and Thoughts, Hilaw, and about two dozen others,

do not deserve the trolling, and I will speak up if it happens.  Dik Doctor, you rule, too.

I am to the point where I stop going to blogs that are causing drama and calling other people names and spreading lies and slandering people.  There are to many other interesting blogs on Xanga to read and to sub too.